Mr Chia tied his son Lil Chia's hands to a tree out of anger for scratching his car even though Lil Chia's intention is to help me wash the car. As a result, Lil Chia's hands were amputated after being tied for too long. In the end, due to the guilt he had for his son; Mr Chia killed himself.
After reading the story, i felt Mr Chia is so irresponsible to end his life after causing his son to be handicapped. He should be responsible for what he did to his son.
It does come to my mind that i should not resort to caning/beating Ethan when he misbehaves.
However, it's not easy for me because i dont have a good temper and i felt that certain amount of caning/beating is necessary to help my child understand my intention when words are unable to get into his head
Everytime i cane/beat Ethan, i was overwhelmed with sadness and pain. When he's ard 14 mths old; i caned him till he stopped crying.
Now i seldom put the cane into action unless he's really in the wrong such as throwing things on the floor or at me or at anyone where i caned him once on his hands following with explanation why I caned him. I'm not sure if he understands my explanation; hopefully he does.
I hurt as much as he experienced from the cane; whereby his is physically and mine is mentally.
People telling me caning/beating my son will make him turn violent in future I'm not sure how true it is perhaps it's a case to case situation but from what i know my mum used caned me and my bros when we're young We did not grow up to be violent persons
I believed parents out there who cane/beat their kids to discipline them share my pain
After saying so much, i have a story to share - it's a true real life story of me, lil KBK.
It happened during my primary school times Being a class monitoress, my duty was to keep the class quiet by writing names of those who talked or misbehaved on the chalkboard FYI, i seldom write names la and even if i do also the boys'
I have a pair of twin sisters who also happened to be my neighbour as classmates
One day, when i was back from school my mum was holding the cane and was angrily questioning me about writing names of the twin sisters on the chalkboard whereby they ended up getting punished by Mrs Cheng to stand outside the class. Because of the long standing; their legs were swollen and painful!
In such senario, i'm flooded with tears; kneeling and pleading my mum not to cane me
I really love my mum She didnt cane me and believed me instead (she normally listens to others) She went to confront the twins' mother and went to pay Mrs Cheng a visit to clarify the whole incident the following day Mrs Cheng returned me my innocence
After the clarification, the twins' mother just walked off with her 2 precious daughters.
Back home, my mum told me that she is very glad that she chose to trust her 6th sense not to cane me and not listen to others before clarification She even described to me how the pitiful the twins' cries were when their mum brought them down to our house to complain. She is also pissed off with their mother for not teaching her children not to tell lies and kept a distance from her
Since young, my mum taught me & bro not to tell lies through caning us whenever we does so except for my youngest bro who was protected by my dad for being the youngest
I strongly believed a small amount of caning/beating does help in discipling a child.
-Sign Off @ 9:15 PM :)
Maggie's Birthday
Sunday, July 12, 2009
Happy Birthday Maggie!
Was invited to her birthday party earlier together with Eling mama, Huihui mama, Sz mama, Kairis mama and Karen mama.
However, before i touch on her birthday celebration; shall blog about Ethan wearing specs and his car car.
The car car hubby bought for Ethan
Ethan really loves it alot! Whenever i said i want to sit his car car, he'll chiong to his car car, open the door and sit inside.
A few days ago, i went FEP and bought one toot toot specs. Ethan looks so funny with it!
Maggie's Birthday Celebration!
Huihui mama and Jaerio
Me, Ethan and Kaylene
Buffet!
Kayson & Ethan!
Weiqiang & Jaerio!
Me & Sereen mama!
And this is stylo Dalton!
Me & Kairis mama!
Maggie's family!
Aisleyne and Jonas!
Me & Aisleyne!
My mummy & Ethan!
Eling mama & her daughter Amabel!
Sereen mama & Ethan!
Kaylene! So pretty!
Me & Eling mama!
Me, Eling mama & Sereen mama!
The kids had alot of fun! Especially Kayson! He kept kissing Ethan till i wanna peng! I think i heard someone saying that Maggie's house can operate as a child care centre! There's so many kids running and playing! Oops! We made a big mess in her house... SORRY! I guess her maid must be cursing us for the mess.
Too bad, hubby went overseas.. if not, he'll be able to join in the fun! I'm missing him now..
-Sign Off @ 12:01 AM :)
Ethan's Playgroup
Monday, July 6, 2009
Oops, cobwebs are accumulating! Sorry for the lack of updates. I was busy with FB's games such as Farm Town and Restaurant City. Ha ha ha!
Gonna update something exciting, which is Ethan's 1st day in his playgroup class @ Julia Gabriel on 5 Jul 09.
On our way to Forum!
Kiasu me made Hubby to send us there early and after taking lunch we went Toys r us for a walk to find the car car which Ethan LOVES! The moment he saw it, he want to sit inside and doesnt want to come out. As the time is up for class, i have to pull him out and as expected he CRIED!
Seeing that Ethan loves the car car so much, Hubby decided to get it but it was out of stock and the nearest place to get it was Suntec so we went there after the class.
I was still worrying about Ethan's adaptability in class but it seems that i'm worrying too much becos he simply treat me as an invisible person! He can walk & run around the class without looking out for me! =_=
During the class, i observed that Ethan likes to stand in front of the teacher when he's teaching and stared at him with a blur face! There's one mummy who keep laughing and telling me he's so cute whenever he chiong to stand in front!
I've uploaded a clip of him in class below.
Ethan made this dragon hat with mama's help
Tea break! Chips, papaya & Lil Hot dog! Papaya & hot dog eaten by Mama!
Another model of the car car Ethan loves and as usual, i have a hard time getting him out. He's the last one to go into class! Only able to get him out when the teacher is closing the door. Haha!
Ethan keeps saying "不要" every now and then! Below is a list of what he can say now:-
Congrats to Ting and Gary on the arrival of their newborn son, Zachary Ng on 23 June 09!
&
Welcome to our BMW club!
Wish you speedy recovery and hope to see ya in our next gathering! :)
-Sign Off @ 6:03 PM :)
19 months
Thursday, June 11, 2009
Hasnt been updating my blog for a month.. simply because i'm lazy to.
Anyway, updates on Ethan's growth:
able to call mama, papa, ah ma, ah gong, po po, jiu jiu, jie jie, kor kor clearly when he's being asked to
whenever i ask him if he's handsome, he'll give me a big smile!
running ard house touching here n there
climb out of playpen
cut the fake fruits
ability to differentiate shapes and slot them into the correct position on his own by either turning the block or his hands
wants to walk on his own; refused to let anyone hold his hands =_=
beat me!
complaining in his own language
ability to put the drawer's key into the lock and clap happily after doing it
when he was asked to close the door, he'll do it
kiss ppl with the "muack"
bad temper - cries like hell whenever something was taken away from him or he couldnt get anything
can eat on his own
rub his hands whenever i say "wash ur hands" or spray the disinfectant to his palms
help mama in cleaning his toys
wipe my dressing table
wipe the floor
bring my clothes & hangers to the basket
keep saying 'nanana" when he see banana & he loves it
whenever he knows someone's back home, he'll run to the door
whenever we're going out, he'll take his socks, shoes and cap; he even tried wearing the socks but couldnt reach.. LOL
I'm actually looking forward to sending Ethan to Julia Gabriel in July, i wonder what will he learn there though it's only a weekend playgroup. Hopefully i bring camera in to take pictures of him.
Oh yes, the durian puffs from Goodwood Park was fantastic not only the taste but the price as well.
20 pcs for $39.80 = approx. $2.00 per piece and it's only the height of my finger and a circumference of a 50cents coin, hmm.. on 2nd thought, probably slightly bigger than a 50 cents coin. Anyway, it's expensive lo but on the other hand, it's worth for money!
